How do you help your child not be a target for bullies?

My little girl is 6 and is a kind child. Recently she%26#039;s been hit by another child in camp (see my other question I posted about this) and I dealt with it with the parent and camp counselors.





However, it seems that even when she makes friends with certain kids they will still seem to get mean with her. Yesterday at camp her so called %26quot;friend%26quot; came up behind her and just pushed her off the swing.





I see a lot of these kids with mood swings and overall unacceptable behavior act out like this. The kids are usually smaller than her, but yet I think her kindness makes them think they can do this to her and be nice to her 15 min later.





She is not a wall flower and is not shy at all. She stands up for herself but I think she retreats after awhile. She is the type of child that is very smart for her age and looks 9 instead of 6. Teachers and adults love her because of her kindness and maturity. She%26#039;s only been bullied a few times, but I don%26#039;t understand what makes her a target.

How do you help your child not be a target for bullies?
you need to teach your daughter self defence. please dont get me wrong , i dont want you to teach her to abuse and be unkind and harass others. i mean - if someone hits her, that she needs to sand up for herself, and immediately let her teach or someone know.





if she lets others bully her, more kids will see her as a target, and just abuse her verbally and physically.





teach her to be confident, strong and open. i know its difficult as she is still very young, but what you plant into her now, thats what will grow in her in the future.





ok... always talk to her and tell her that its important to stand up for herself, and if someone is doing something wrong to her, she needs to report it to yourself or to her teacher or so on.








good luck





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Reply:take her to a wrestling match , maybe she can become the exact opposite , and be famous !!!
Reply:You can%26#039;t change what other kids are going to do. Kid%26#039;s are going to pick on who they want. The problem is not with your child, it is with the other parents. I have always taught my kids to treat others the way that they want to be treated, and if they hurt someone else or pick on someone else, then they have to deal with the consequences. A lot of kids today just don%26#039;t seem to have any consequences and if you could single handedly change that you would be a wealthy person. Good luck to you and your daughter. Just tell her to hold her head up.
Reply:Put her in Krav Magra lessons. She%26#039;ll be able to disarm any attacker and feed them their spleen in one deft move.
Reply:My kids had a bully problem at school recently as well. I talked to the principal and told him %26quot;They come from a family of Marines and have been shown some self-defense moves. If you don%26#039;t want them to retaliate with force, then something needs to be done.%26quot; I haven%26#039;t heard about anymore bullying.
Reply:Since you cannot spank the other kids who are brats, then your ONLY option is to protect your daughter.Get her into martial arts training for the school system has proven to me and many others they will NOT do ANYTHING when a kid is being bullied.This is why there are many school shootings, knifings etc.She will be able to handle herself and once she has learned martial arts tell her to try to avoid a fight at all cost, but if someone puts their hands on you, hit them twice as hard and run to the teacher.
Reply:Some of the bullying children have problems at home, some think that because she%26#039;s nice, she%26#039;s one to be pushed around.


The main thing you need to do is teach her not to retreat when she is standing up for herself, you need to teach her to stay strong if someone is trying to bully her.
Reply:Putting him/her in some type of defense class ie: karate,boxing and constantly remind him/her to choose friends wisely and not to engage in any hearsay...Good luck!
Reply:Mine had the same problem. Until she learned to stick up for herself. Adults won%26#039;t always be around, %26amp; do you really want a kid who is a target? It gets 1,000 times worse in school. Just a couple times sticking up for herself, and it doesn%26#039;t even have to be a fight, just saying she%26#039;s not going to take any crap, they%26#039;ll eventually back off. Kids will do to each other whatever they can get away with. And if they go unchecked, they grow up to do the same. Make her part of the solution :)
Reply:My granddaughter is the same way and has 2 older brothers. She%26#039;s bigger than the one 2 years older than her. I%26#039;ve seen her get picked on when I want to throttle the kid picking on her. Sometimes when this happens she doesn%26#039;t respond to the meanness. She%26#039;s a church goer and I think she learned something there that protects her integrity. It%26#039;s very amazing. Don%26#039;t teach her to bully back, she%26#039;s a special child and very blessed. Wish the whole world could be like these kids. What a wonderful world we would have!!
Reply:Teach her Karate!! Or Tae kwan do, so she can whoop the bullies butt. Then the bullies wont mess with her anyway.
Reply:you should have a long talk with her about how she would handle certain situations and tell her if someone is treating her bad not to be kind to them anymore or not until they apologize
Reply:Your daughter does NOT need a %26quot;don%26#039;t mess with me attitude.%26quot;





All she needs is self confidence. If she learns to be confident about herself and sure of herself the other kids will see it.





Tell her to hold her up high, her posture straight and continue to be kind. Smile at everyone. If someone is picking on her teach her techniques to deal.





Some phrases she should learn.





%26quot;No%26quot; is a complete sentence. Don%26#039;t let her be a pushover. If she doesn%26#039;t want to do something, just say %26quot;No%26quot; and walk away. Never feel guilty or bad about it.





If someone picks a fight she should say, %26quot;I don%26#039;t want to fight about it, should we get an adult to help us work it out?%26quot; If they continue to fight then tell her to GET an adult. Her well-being is important. It%26#039;s not tattling if she tried to stop it and they won%26#039;t.





Never-Ever-Never cry in front of those bullies. They WANT that. Don%26#039;t give it to them.





Your daughter sounds like a sweet little girl. That doesn%26#039;t have to change. Just teach her to be a leader instead of a follower.





:)
Reply:Your daughter sounds EXACTLY like my son. He is 5 and he looks and is the size of 7 y/o. He is very smart for his age, and as outgoing as can be. His best friend who lives right next door to us is about 1/3 of my son%26#039;s size, is a foster child and has anger issues, and also isn%26#039;t very bright. I am constantly seeing him beat up on my son. The other day I stood there and watched the kid next door repeatedly hit my son in the head. My son just sat there and CRIED!! The thing is...He has been in karate for 6 mos now!! I figured he would take matters into his own hands and finally give that little boy what he deserved..But he didn%26#039;t!! I didn%26#039;t stop the bullying right away though. I was encouraging my son to once and for all stand up for himself. I dunno what it is going to take. I have told my son he isn%26#039;t going to get into trouble for standing up for himself against this child. I guess it just isn%26#039;t in his nature.
Reply:her indifference makes her a BIG target to be bullied she looks older and is mature for her years... also adults tend to like her.. which can cause problems such as jelousy with the other children.... i was bullied for many yeas for exactly the same thing, until at the age of 15 i was taken out of normal school and put into college with older people where i excelled, i cant help with any advice because it went so badly for me until the age of 15 going through different schools, and nothing seemed to work, even going to appopriate adults caused bigger problems because the instigators were reprimanded then bullied me more for telling sitting back and allowing myself to be bullied, same, hitting back, same, all you can do is support her and let her know that they are just jelous and it is their problem not hers, i hope as with me it dosen%26#039;t esculate into bigger problems as she goes through school, my thoughts are with you


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