Have you ever...(x regrets...) ......read on.....?

...talked to an x say from a couple of years back and knwo he is doing great..wiht his now wife who cheated on him but he took back...hes a loving hubby and parent...sucssesfull and hard working..takes care of his stay at home wife and child...and REALIZE what a MISTAKE you made when you let him go ..to be with your now hubby...Who rearly ever takes care of you %26amp; ur sons every need.. whos to lazy to get a job..n rather stay at home with the baby wile you work ur *** off...who cheated 2 months after his 1st son was born..who drives your car b-cause he could never afort one...n never ever givers u a flower...a card... a massage....


I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN...THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW.....


Im i the only 1 in this situation...(banging my head against the wall)?

Have you ever...(x regrets...) ......read on.....?
never had that problem
Reply:yes i have been in kinda the same situation. I am not with anyone but my ex is. he had drug problems when we were together and things got really bad and we divorced. Now he is with someone else. I have regrets of ltting him go. I have been really depressed over the whole thing and am now seeing a counselor
Reply:no u r not the only one there. lots have regrets about their exs... i would advise you still to try to find good things about your relationship and to stop thinking about what might have been..
Reply:Hm...my ex's are all still losers(bf's included here)...that is why they are ex's.


Sorry that the good one got away.
Reply:oh wow this sounds like a soap opera.... just focus on the positive things you got going on (im sure throught all that you can find at least one) and don't regret, regrets make you weaker and miserable, if you are so unhappy just get out of that relationship, you deserve better. and wish your ex the best. pluis you never know the grass is always greener on the other side, so you don't know how "happy" they are... just start building your own fullfilling life.
Reply:Honey it sounds like you learned that the grass is not greener on the otherside the hard way.If you are not happy in your marraige then why are you still there?Why are you with him if he cheated on you?
Reply:Just remeber and ex is and ex for a reason...
Reply:no........ many ppl also have the same things as u............
Reply:Wow girl. It sounds like you aren't very happy in your situation. Maybe you should examine dropping that extra weight of your husband if he isn't doing his part in the relationship. If you are already doing everything yourself anyway why stay if your aren't happy.





As hard as it is not to dwell on the bad decisions you have made, just know that regardless of how things look EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. I know it sounds crazy but I have learned that it is so true. The things that we go through help to form who we are.





Turn to God and let Him be everything you need. Let Him be your source of happiness and the other stuff will fall into place. You need to provide a loving and stable environment for you and for your precious children. Be thankful for what you have and move on. Don't focus on how happy others appear to be.





Good luck. You will be in my prayers!
Reply:well, they say what's gos around comes around.Now it's too late too look back. You should watch what you wish for because if things would have happened in a different way you would have never had you son. and I'm sure you love him very much, i bet he always puts a smile on your face when you are down. Everything happens for a reason look for all the good things in your life. look for the good things that you love your husband ,not only the bad things. It was not meant ex boyfriend and you to be together, he is happy right now and maybe he found the right person in life.i hope that you let go of the past because it's not good to down your self and your family because of your ex.Just be strong maybe the future has a better life for you and your family.
Reply:Bang your head away if that is what you get off on. Funny how you never saw any of your present hubby's "charm" when you were busy dumping the ex. And funny how you didn't see your ex's charm, when you were wooing #2. It just may be time for you to make a break, and STAY BY YOUR SELF until you know what the score is in life. WE all grow up one day or another, and it sounds as if you are being forced to do that right now. So get off by yourself with your kids and finish the job. Perhaps in a couple of years, you will not be looking back as much as you are looking forward...you are in a dead in "job" right now. Good luck
Reply:Wow, you sound like you have a track record of making the wrong decisions,...doesnt that bother you at all or do you see this?.........regrets?......regrets are ideas you have that keep you from moving on with your life in a successful fashion, if you want to have a great life?.......leave your regrets at your mom and dad's house and walk out into the real world and do something successful, you wont regret it.
Reply:And yet you girls say size doesn't matter.
Reply:We all have one thing in common, we all wish we knew back then what we know now. Don't beat yourself over that, Maybe your ex is the way he is because you let him go and if you had stayed with him he would've been a different person. Maybe if you leave your husband now he changes his ways and become better person for somebody else. Leave them both behind and find somebody who's in the same place you are. Unfortunately this is how life goes.
Reply:Fated?
Reply:Ha Ha - No Honey, your not the only one. You never know, that is why it is all a chance. If I only knew then what I know now?!?!


I do understand, however, for some reason you are where you are ment to be right now. We are not supposed to ask why be I do believe that for whatever its worth! I guess its made you a stronger person. Plus, maybe he wouldn't have been that way with you. You know? Its like we are different with different people? I look at it this way, if I wouldn't have done what I've done, my children wouldn't be the same as they are right now - I wouldn't change them for anything so...... there's your answer!! Good luck.
Reply:You have more things to contimplate on now...think forward-forget about what is now long gone!You're gonna be just fine...
Reply:if we all had a crystal ball, then there would be no need for this site...sorry your situation did not work out. and just so you know, everyone has regrets, whether they want to admit it or not!
Reply:Everything happens for a reason. There's some cosmic reason why you weren't supposed to be with him. Take responsibility for your life. If you're not happy, change things. Everyone deserves to be happy!!! If that means leaving your husband, so be it. Honey, I think it's past time to start putting YOU first! Take the conversation with your x as a wake up call. Best of luck to you!
Reply:Wow, you picked a real winner, eh? Should have thought a little harder before you had kids. Don't try to justify an affair because you are miserable about your choices. You children aren't "choices", and everything you do affects them. Remember that before you do something stupid. Shape up your husband before you jump to your ex. There was obviously some reason that you dumped him. (And it STILL applies even if you don't say what it is)
Reply:Why is it we always let the good men go. Maybe because of the stupidty we have. yes i know exacly what you mean.you need to leave the man your with now and get somone new and someone who want you for more than your body (You live and U learn trust me i kbnow honey!!!!!!!!!!) you cant get him back by=ut you came get your life straight. Stop thinking about what you could have had think about what your going to get. and the phase i wish i know then what i know now. you have to stop saying that you know he was a good man just not for you. god has made somone for everyone. But dont loook for them let them looke for you you just keep ya self looking good.
Reply:Are you for real I'd be long gone if that wasme...you only get one chance of life why live it miserably?
Reply:The grass is always greener....you only know what your ex told you, you don't honestly know that things are that great for him. One of your husband's ex's could run into him and he would tell her that same story. Don't be regretful, but if you really don't like your husband or feel that he isn't working to uphold his part of the marriage, get counseling or get out.
Reply:Focus on NOW and move forward. Regrets and focusing on the past will not create happiness for you.





Pay attention to your marriage. If it is bad... fix it or arrange to get out. Do it with integrity and love.





Then you can move on to another relationship if you choose too.
Reply:i, too, let a keeper go but it was for their wellbeing not for mine. i was screwed up from drinking and drugs and let them go(wife and 2 kids) to a better life. i figured their happiness was more important than my habit. anyway, leave the loser with your kids and get on with your life. if the good lord wants yall to hook-up it'll happen, if not maybe you'll meet someone who's better for you. you'll be away from the dead weight which is good for all of you



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